Comments on: About Me http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com Aline Wong Mon, 18 Jul 2011 17:28:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: David How http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/about/#comment-46971 David How Thu, 10 Sep 2009 12:34:22 +0000 http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/?page_id=95#comment-46971 I really want to meet you in person one day :-) I really want to meet you in person one day :-)

]]> By: Jetty Baby http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/about/#comment-46588 Jetty Baby Wed, 26 Aug 2009 16:11:30 +0000 http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/?page_id=95#comment-46588 Your blog is most refreshing. Well done. In life, there are sincere friends - anything else does not deserve being called a friend. Unfortunately in mauritius (because that seems to be the mentality), there are many people who pretend to be friends but do not have your best interest at heart. If you have found true friends, keep them close as they are more precious than diamonds. Most of all, do not forget to enjoy life!! Your blog is most refreshing. Well done.

In life, there are sincere friends – anything else does not deserve being called a friend. Unfortunately in mauritius (because that seems to be the mentality), there are many people who pretend to be friends but do not have your best interest at heart. If you have found true friends, keep them close as they are more precious than diamonds.

Most of all, do not forget to enjoy life!!

]]> By: Dizzy http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/about/#comment-46572 Dizzy Tue, 25 Aug 2009 23:05:30 +0000 http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/?page_id=95#comment-46572 I completely disagree... Life IS about having fun all the time!!! I completely disagree…

Life IS about having fun all the time!!!

]]> By: nutty http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/about/#comment-46065 nutty Sun, 09 Aug 2009 04:03:33 +0000 http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/?page_id=95#comment-46065 thanks, my ixus 400 work again cos ur info. ^^ thanks, my ixus 400 work again cos ur info. ^^

]]> By: zanfilip http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/about/#comment-46037 zanfilip Sat, 08 Aug 2009 12:41:00 +0000 http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/?page_id=95#comment-46037 Aline, Your About Me and Finding Yourself truly resonated with me. What you describe is a process familiar enough for a lot of people who have had lots of cultural changes in their life (with everything that irrevocably derives from these), especially when evolving from a small colonial/displaced situation to the bigger 'other' outer world situations during the 'growing pains' years. But your writing is so honest, so fresh, so immediate and so tangible, that it feels like a breath of fresh air from all the 'coated' & shallow stuff I've read elsewhere on the web or a printed page. I'd like to leave you these words from Jacques Solomé that I hope will resonate with you too. Instead of just saying we all need to feel loved and accepted, Jacques enumerates 'our relational needs' as: » En premier lieu, le besoin de se dire, c’est-à-dire de pouvoir passer de l’impression ("in") à l’expression ("out"), de pouvoir mettre des mots sur son ressenti, ses sentiments, ses émotions ou les idées qui nous traversent… Le besoin d’être entendu, c’est-à-dire avoir le sentiment que ce que j’ai dit n’est pas tombé dans le vide, ne s’est pas perdu, n’est pas nié, déformé ou récupéré, mais est bien arrivé jusqu’à l’autre, le destinataire que j’ai choisi. Le besoin d’être reconnu, d’être vu et reconnu tel que je suis, et non tel que l’autre me voudrait ou imagine que je suis. Le besoin d’être valorisé, c’est-à-dire pouvoir ressentir que j’ai une valeur, que l’on compte sur moi, que je représente quelque chose d’important pour les personnes significatives de ma vie. Le besoin d’avoir une intimité un espace et un temps, où l’autre n’a pas accès sans mon accord, ne fait pas intrusion. Ce besoin est étroitement lié au besoin d’affirmation, lui-même conditionné par celui d’approbation (à l’origine de nombre de dépendances affectives et relationnelles). Ces deux besoins étant antinomiques, si je prends la liberté de m’affirmer, je dois prendre le risque de ne pas avoir l’approbation de l’autre. Le besoin d’exercer une influence sur autrui, sur son environnement immédiat, pour ne pas être toujours dépendant de la réponse de l’autre. D’autres besoins paraîtront plus prioritaires à certains, mais c’est de leur satisfaction que dépendront l’amour de soi et l’estime de soi, qui font aujourd’hui gravement défaut à beaucoup. Jacques Salomé » I find myself when I am true to these words and staying true to oneself is a work in progress. And sometimes I wonder if it is not easier for me to learn Mandarin! And I guess you, Ling, won't have to worry about that! :) zanfilip Aline,

Your About Me and Finding Yourself truly resonated with me. What you describe is a process familiar enough for a lot of people who have had lots of cultural changes in their life (with everything that irrevocably derives from these), especially when evolving from a small colonial/displaced situation to the bigger ‘other’ outer world situations during the ‘growing pains’ years.

But your writing is so honest, so fresh, so immediate and so tangible, that it feels like a breath of fresh air from all the ‘coated’ & shallow stuff I’ve read elsewhere on the web or a printed page.

I’d like to leave you these words from Jacques Solomé that I hope will resonate with you too. Instead of just saying we all need to feel loved and accepted, Jacques enumerates ‘our relational needs’ as:

»
En premier lieu, le besoin de se dire, c’est-à-dire de pouvoir passer de l’impression (“in”) à l’expression (“out”), de pouvoir mettre des mots sur son ressenti, ses sentiments, ses émotions ou les idées qui nous traversent… Le besoin d’être entendu, c’est-à-dire avoir le sentiment que ce que j’ai dit n’est pas tombé dans le vide, ne s’est pas perdu, n’est pas nié, déformé ou récupéré, mais est bien arrivé jusqu’à l’autre, le destinataire que j’ai choisi. Le besoin d’être reconnu, d’être vu et reconnu tel que je suis, et non tel que l’autre me voudrait ou imagine que je suis. Le besoin d’être valorisé, c’est-à-dire pouvoir ressentir que j’ai une valeur, que l’on compte sur moi, que je représente quelque chose d’important pour les personnes significatives de ma vie.

Le besoin d’avoir une intimité un espace et un temps, où l’autre n’a pas accès sans mon accord, ne fait pas intrusion. Ce besoin est étroitement lié au besoin d’affirmation, lui-même conditionné par celui d’approbation (à l’origine de nombre de dépendances affectives et relationnelles). Ces deux besoins étant antinomiques, si je prends la liberté de m’affirmer, je dois prendre le risque de ne pas avoir l’approbation de l’autre.

Le besoin d’exercer une influence sur autrui, sur son environnement immédiat, pour ne pas être toujours dépendant de la réponse de l’autre. D’autres besoins paraîtront plus prioritaires à certains, mais c’est de leur satisfaction que dépendront l’amour de soi et l’estime de soi, qui font aujourd’hui gravement défaut à beaucoup.

Jacques Salomé
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I find myself when I am true to these words and staying true to oneself is a work in progress. And sometimes I wonder if it is not easier for me to learn Mandarin! And I guess you, Ling, won’t have to worry about that! :)

zanfilip

]]> By: Leon http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/about/#comment-12035 Leon Thu, 06 Apr 2006 08:04:19 +0000 http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/?page_id=95#comment-12035 passing by,stuck,and feeling nice. I like your way to show yourself, I like your emotional inside, like your way to smell, yes,I like you. :wink: I am staying in shanghai now just like you,the difference is I am native guy from other province,work here and live here,I have no so much passion appeared in daily life,but you know like a fire still burning in my inside,ahh,a little complicated. anyway thank you. If you will we can make a friend,expecting your respond. passing by,stuck,and feeling nice.
I like your way to show yourself,
I like your emotional inside,
like your way to smell,
yes,I like you. :wink:
I am staying in shanghai now just like you,the difference is I am native guy from other province,work here and live here,I have no so much passion appeared in daily life,but you know like a fire still burning in my inside,ahh,a little complicated.
anyway thank you.
If you will we can make a friend,expecting your respond.

]]> By: gancho http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/about/#comment-5819 gancho Wed, 08 Feb 2006 11:45:36 +0000 http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/?page_id=95#comment-5819 aline, aline, aline....i need to tell you two things: first, don't bother yourself because somebody told you you are kind of complicated, the only thing one should be afraid of is being too simple; second, thinking is good for ur mental health...let me do you a favor and f* all those who say that we are introverts and bla bla bla...many people say that i'm an introvert too. so, that's what we are, that's what we are like, if you don't like it it's ur problem...whatever...i deliberately wanted to escape it, but :no: , i read your intro and felt we are so similar for the better or worse....i'll stop here :censored: aline, aline, aline….i need to tell you two things: first, don’t bother yourself because somebody told you you are kind of complicated, the only thing one should be afraid of is being too simple; second, thinking is good for ur mental health…let me do you a favor and f* all those who say that we are introverts and bla bla bla…many people say that i’m an introvert too. so, that’s what we are, that’s what we are like, if you don’t like it it’s ur problem…whatever…i deliberately wanted to escape it, but :no: , i read your intro and felt we are so similar for the better or worse….i’ll stop here :censored:

]]> By: kevin.. http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/about/#comment-5491 kevin.. Mon, 23 Jan 2006 18:53:35 +0000 http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/?page_id=95#comment-5491 umm & ur frien also call u kristel :P c moi kevin:p le pti mechan bro :P lol.. ou bien les yeux revolver.. "her eyes are simply wow!!" :P oxox kevin umm & ur frien also call u kristel :P
c moi kevin:p le pti mechan bro :P lol..
ou bien les yeux revolver.. “her eyes are simply wow!!” :P
oxox
kevin

]]> By: ROBIN http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/about/#comment-4563 ROBIN Fri, 23 Dec 2005 08:13:56 +0000 http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/?page_id=95#comment-4563 I dont know how I got to your website...and how funny you are mauritian too :laughing: oh well......my name is Robin and I live in Australia. nice to meet a very beautiful mauritian... I dont know how I got to your website…and how funny you are mauritian too :laughing:

oh well……my name is Robin and I live in Australia.

nice to meet a very beautiful mauritian…

]]> By: Nick http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/about/#comment-4491 Nick Sun, 11 Dec 2005 07:49:22 +0000 http://www.a-l-i-n-e.com/?page_id=95#comment-4491 :smile: :smile:

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